About Heal Abuse

My name is Ami, I’m Swedish but also call Italy home. We all got dreams. My dream became real when I started a family with a charismatic man from southern Italy, that I loved dearly. However, the dream quickly became a nightmare, of the worst kind. What was supposed to be “happy ever after” turned instead in to a nightmare.

I knew nothing about verbal abuse or the early warning signs of domestic violence. Being a strong, independent and mature woman, I never saw it as a possibility of becoming a victim of abuse. Before I knew it, abuse was part of my everyday life.

In 2015 I eventually left him, for all the right reasons, but in all the wrong ways. That’s when hell broke loose. Everything I had experienced during the relationship was nothing in comparison to what happened after the break up.

My ignorance, total lack of preparation and listening to “the wrong” advice resulted in a lot of suffering, that might have been avoided had I been prepared. By spreading information about abuse, how we can prevent it and how we can heal from it, I hope to be able to prevent anyone going through what we have been through.

I almost published the site and community in 2016, but I realised that I was coming from anger, fear and despair and that’s not what I want to spread.

Now, my life-situation is challenging, to say the least. However, I find myself in a totally different space internally to what I did then. Here I want to share the insights, tools and exercises that took me from terrified, without hope, anxious, and suffering from PTSS (post traumatic stress syndrom), to being able to feel secure, calm, strong and happy in my everyday life…without my life-situation having improved, rather the opposite. From this heart space, I want to share how it’s possible to heal and find peace, regardless of your circumstances.

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Ignorance and complacency help spread abuse like a virus. Information, inspiration, sharing and caring is the antidote.

Our Mission

Our mission is to PREVENT and HEAL ABUSE…all forms of abuse…through spreading INFORMATION about the What, Why, Where and How, as well as the effects of abuse on both individuals, families, communities and the society as a whole. We aim to encourage HEALING, through giving valuable SUPPORT, useful ADVICE, WARNINGS and heartfelt SHARING in our “Dare to Share Community” Here you will find Articles, Links and Videos related to abuse and healing. Our aim is to create a large scale sustainable change in consciousness, the way we treat each other and ourselves, educating and inspiring people to prevent and heal abuse

By Identifying what abuse is,
Shedding light on the how, where and why people become abusers and victims
Learning how to recognis-e abusive behaviours and interactions,
Spreading awareness of the early warning signs of abuse
Warn about the dangers of victim blaming
Inform about the devastating long term effects of abuse on an individual level as well as on entire families, communities, and society as a whole

Through

Warnings and Advice
Personal Experiences and Insights
Revealing Studies
Illuminating and Inspiring Talks
Community and Support
Practical Methods, Therapies, Exercises and Programs
Resource Links to Professional Help, Support and Inspiration
Movies and Songs

How we go about it

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Informing

Because ignorance is gro-ground for abuse, racism, bullying and victim blaming.

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Sharing

Because loneliness and isolation creates victims, suffering and ignorance.

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Healing

Because everyone has the right to be safe, loved and respected.

We are a bit different from the #MeToo movement

Our focus is on prevention and healing. We are not about judging, criticising, revenge or hanging out anyone. Yes, even predators, perpetraitors and people that have abused are also welcome here, as long as you/they are willing to learn, get inspired, improve and heal. It’s not to justify abusive behaviours, nor to not hold people responsable for their actions. It’s because understanding and empathy is better than hate and prevention is more effective than revenge.

”If you had been born to the same parents, in the same country, with the same upbringing and values, beliefs, physical and mental abilities and disabilities and experienced exactly all the things that the abuser, violator, pedofile, rapist, bully, sexual offender, racist, victim, battered person or survivor has experienced in his/her life..maybe, just maybe…you yourself might just have done, said, felt and feared the exact same things as he/she has.”

-Ami Elsius